33weeks pregnant relationship issues

I've been with my s/o for 8 years. We have a pretty solid relationship but lately I need more.

I have a daughter from a previous relationship but by all accounts, my s/o is her dad. That's all she's ever known. He is good to her. I am 33weeks pregnant with his (technically) first kid. He started a really good job a few months ago and hasn't been able to go to but one scan with me. That was the confirmation 9 week scan. I get it, he doesn't have time saved up to be able to come and now w this virus shit, he really can't come. I thought he would be sweeter once I got bigger, and be more hands on, excited to feel the baby kick, etc. Now, I'm very big and he still acts the same. He is just distant, like he knows I'm pregnant, but doesnt acknowledge it. I know hes not cheating, hes not secretive or weird about his phone but i just feel so fucking alone. I've spent about 1500+ $$ on this new baby such as a new crib, travel system, wardrobe, dresser, etc etc. Because I am genuinely excited. He, on the other hand, has bought one thing. 30$ worth. He's not afraid to have sex, me being this far along, I think b/c it benefits him, he gets off & goes about his day. I've told him numerous times I need more affection, like he cares, something. Talk to the baby, make future plans for our family, & so forth

He's still a good dad to our 8y/o and I know he will be a good dad to our newest addition but I feel so isolated. I know a lot of times, dads cant properly bond with their kids until they're actually here (cant feel them kicking) and I'm trying to keep an open mind. I also know my hormones are esp extra these days and I try giving him the benefit of the doubt. I just want to feel pampered, loved, all of the things I missed out on my 1st pregnancy b/c of a deadbeat baby father. What more can I do? Ive told him how I feel on several occasions. I dont feel appreciated in the least. Any advice, comments, anything? Tia