Never turned on.. help

Okay so I have 0 sex drive. I used to love sex and foreplay etc before having my kids but now if my partner touches me it makes me cringe. I just want to be able to have fun again 😞

I don’t masturbate either. Was looking into a massager wand but I don’t want to fork out all the money if it’s not going to get used. Any help on increasing my libido??