Great but no so great sex life...

My partner an I have been together going on 4 years. An we’ve just had our first child together

Theirs only one thing that separates us... the bedroom business he’s typically the one too initiate the sex ( he’s dominate ). But sex is always on his lead & he sucks at it 🤦🏼‍♀️ it’s the same 3 positions I get head, back shots maybe a little missionary an we’re done 30 seconds flat. I rarely “cum”, I’m really into rough sex... hair pulling, neck sucking, ass slapping, the dirty talk

& he’s the complete opposite he doesn’t say anything during sex 🙄 an I feel so weird trying to lead especially with him being overall dominant but honey I be ready to just attack him & show how & where I’d like too be touched. How do I go about this? He swears it’s me when it comes too our sex life not being where it needs too but I promise it’s HIM !!! I love him, but I’d like a little more in the bedroom