My Husband is a Man Child

UPDATE: I just found his gaming page, and he is live on Facebook streaming himself playing, at 3pm, FROM HIS OFFICE! Guys I am so over this!!!

I’m not sure anyone will even read this, as it’s more of a long rant that I have to get off my chest somehow. I’m at a loss on what to do about my marriage right now. My husband has become a man child to the 100th degree and it’s driving me absolutely insane.

He’s a gamer, and he’s obsessive about it. He plays everyday and most times through 2am. He works a full-time job that pays absolute shit, but he keeps it because he’s the only one in the office and can do whatever he wants. He brings his laptop everyday and streams videos of himself for his gaming page. He is very experienced in his industry, but got fired 2 years ago. He took this job even though it paid significantly less as a “temporary” solution but here we are 2 years later and he has no interest in perusing a better position. I get paid 3x what he does, so we basically rely on my income. He comes home an hour or so late every day because he says he is busy at work, but it’s obviously because he’s working on his streaming and gaming stuff. We have a 2 year old daughter that he hardly sees through the week because of this.

Getting him to do anything around the house is like pulling teeth. I’ve even been mowing our yard most the time. If he’s not playing games, he is glued to his phone texting people he plays games with. I take care of both of our bills and money, He has one bill he is responsible for paying, and always pays it 2+ weeks late.

I’ve expressed all of this to him a number of times. You can have your hobby, but we need to be a team in this marriage. He acts like he understands and then just goes right back to this crap.

No, he is not depressed. He has diagnosed ADD and is medicated for it. As a result, he has to see a psychologist occasionally who can confirm he’s not depressed or mentally ill to the point where he would abuse the ADD medication. (Apparently standard procedure since the meds are commonly abused by people.)

I’m not a happy person anymore and find myself just being frustrated at him all the time, which isn’t fair either. It’s just exhausting taking care of our daughter and all of his stuff all the time. It feels like I’m taking care of two children. I work really hard at my job and with everything else, it gets overwhelming. I want to be able to rely on my husband and I want him to be more responsible.

Therapy might be the last bet, but I’m not confident it would change him. This has been going on for a bout a year now and no conversation has made a difference. All we can do is try though. At this point, there’s nothing to lose and I’m just really down about it all the time. 😔