Am I the only one?

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So about 8 months ago I was pregnant, my boyfriend and I had only been back together for 5 months after a break up of 6 months (together for 3 years on and off) I found out I was pregnant and he made me get an abortion, I thought it was the right thing to do but everyday since I had the abortion all I see is babies, half my friends have babies, well most of them do actually. I'm only 19 and I can't help think that it's wrong to want a baby. I miss the thought of being a mother though. I miss knowing I had a little baby inside of me. I was 8 weeks when I had the abortion and I still cry over killing the little one.

Am I the only one to think like this after aborting it? Am i selfish to want it back?

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I had an abortion at 16, got it done at 8 weeks gestation aswell. 2 girls I knew got pregnant around the same time; and decided to keep them. I felt guilty.. I would cry, and had a lot of self-hate. But I came to forgive myself; what I did was for a good reason. I wasnt finished school, I did drugs/alcohol daily, I was very immature. Three years later I have been blessed with a son. My partner and I are financially, physically, mentally stable now and he was much welcomed. During my first pregnancy we both got a strong feeling he was a boy; my boyfriend assured me he would forgive me and come back into our lives when the time was right.. Well here he is. Abortion is no easy experience ecspecially with all the critisism based around it but stay strong and know that you did it for a reason. The time will come when you feel ready and able. You arent alone and you arent a bad person. :) xo

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I know everyone will hate on me for saying this but I am totally against abortion!! No one can make you do something you don't want to do!! My younger sister went through something similar the father did not want the baby and told my sister to get an abortion. My sister being the strong willed person she is did not listen to him!! She knew she couldn't do it on her own yes but there is always the option to put the baby up for adoption! And that's what she did!! She got herself in this situation. Why punish an unborn child?! It isn't their fault! If you weren't prepared to take on the responsibilities of what happens when you have unprotected sex then you should think about using some protection to prevent it!! But no you are not wrong to want a baby again. That's completely normal because obviously you understand what you've done and feel guilty about it! This is just my opinion! I'm sorry if it's harsh!

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Not at all. I am now 23 and expecting my first. But I had an abortion when I was 20 because my boyfriend at the time convinced me that it was what was best for us. But until I found my now boyfriend I was sad any time I saw a baby. And then my brother had a baby and it was even harder for me because then I think oh how would they have acted together. But give it some time you will forgive yourself and be happy that you are expecting when you are again. It's a very hard thing to go through and I hope you didn't have to do it alone!

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You did what you thought was best at the time. It's really hard to see others make a different decision. I hope you're not still with this guy.

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That's why when my family told me to get an abortion, I listened to my boyfriend and did not. I'm 20, old enough to make my own decisions, but a big decision like that is stressful and confusing. Especially when your loved ones are not on board. The thought of raising a baby by yourself is scary. So no judgment in your decision to abort. But it's completely normal to feel like that, many people say abortions mess women up mentally a lot of the time. I say when you are ready and happy, then go for it. With a man who will stick by you and be just as happy with the baby as you are. Best of luck to you girl.

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Don't listen to people are are giving you negative criticism for the choice that you made. People are always going to be negative and give opinions where they aren't asked. You did what you thought was best for you at that time. It's completely normal to second guess yourself and be upset over the fact that you could have been a mother. But I think In 10 years you'll see it was the best choice for you

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It is normal to feel this way. Go to counseling or a support group. Don't rush into getting pregnant again. It will not undo what you did and would not be fair to the baby.

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I'm sure it's normal but I wouldn't act on it unless your situation has improved from circumstances that lead to the abortion.

Am I the only one?

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