Family is mad at me

I'm a very overly cautious person. I always have been. I'm very paranoid. I suffer from health anxiety and am a hypocandriac. Since this virus has started spreading I've been very overly cautious. I wipe down my groceries. I wear a mask. Carry sanitizer to constantly clean my hands. I don't leave my house unless I absolutely have to. I make my husband shower if he goes anywhere. My mom and my sister have been bugging me to visit them. I finally gave in and visited with my boys last weekend. Our state lifted shelter in place and since none of them have been sick I thought I'd be okay. Well now that shelter in place is lifted my mom and sister are being less cautious and making it risky to continue being around them. My sister is having her boyfriend visit and he's working at a plasma center and my mom is giving my brother rides home from work, no mask while they're in the car together and having my neices and nephews over. I just don't feel like they're taking the risk as seriously as I am. My mother and I had planned on spending mother's day together but now I'm really reconsidering it. I texted her telling her I don't think I'll be going after all and I was attacked instantly. I feel like I'm being a bitch but I'm really just trying to be safe. Everyone in my family is pissed at me. My brother is pissed at me because I refuse to drive him home from work and because I told him I wouldn't be able to go over his house to visit. They all reply with "it's fine I get it". Like I'm being some stuck up bitch about this whole thing. I'm mad. I'm mad they're not taking this seriously. Now everyone is mad at me and I'm obviously a horrible person.