Ok I can’t speak for anyone but myself. My husband met me when we were in high school and was sweet always nice always complemented me. We had 3 kids and purchased a house. And we aren’t the same he is rude, hotheaded and just a jerk. But and a big one. I love him. And as much as I want to go through with it. I would be lying to say I did not neglect him and treat him like I once did. Children were a blessing but also dampen on us aswell. I am not nice as I remember . And playful with him I have become pretty cold to him. And as rude as he is I didn’t really make his life easier. He does support us. But I have been neglecting him for sometime. And I know his behavior needs changing but I also noticed I aswell need to be nicer. At the end of the day we have kids. And a rift between us should not impact the life of 5 people in the end. I mean he didn’t ever hit me or doesn’t party he is pretty good dad. And it would be stupid to do this. So I am going to give it a shot with him. Not just for the kids, but for us because we met when we said not have kids. And sometimes people change. It’s part of life. How many guys seem so perfect then boom compete different person.