Abuse

I am being emotionally abused by my husband. I don’t really know when it started, but after many years together I’ve started to open my eyes and actually see what’s going on. It’s only when we fight, which isn’t often... like once every 3 months or so... but i never get mad first. It’s always something I said or did that pisses him off and it just keeps going. I don’t even know what mad feels like anymore. Im Easy going. Light hearted, and kind. He’s thoughtful, smart, and giving. Everyone has a bad side tho. His is so extreme. Like his temper is like a tea kettle. I don’t have anyone to talk to, I don’t want people knowing how he truly talks to me when he’s upset... Knowing me I’ll probably just suck it up and move on without an apology. I’m too forgiving. Within a few days Things will be baxk to normal, and I’ll brush it under the rug. I just know in my heart of hearts it’s not going to last forever like this. Something has to change or we will end up in a divorce. I’m not a doormat, and I will not be walked over. I am, however, logical.

We have a 4 month old baby, and kids should never be the reason we stay in a marriage, but they sure make it worth fighting for. I probably sound like an idiot. I’m not trying to stick up for the wrong behavior but I do want my marriage to work.

Tonight we got in a fight over HSA money. Yup, you read that right 🙄😐 we’ve used a lot of my hsa on a few bills since the baby has been born. I only have $116 on mine and our baby has a bill for $189 or something. So I said the other day that I needed his card to pay the remaining amount. He said just pay it out of our savings.... which made no sense to me. so I kept my card out and waited for him to give me his card. Well tonight I said something again and he called me nosey. And said “what if I wanted to whiten my teeth or something, why are you being nosey?” I can’t do shit without you knowing” I thought he was joking so I went on to say that we should just spend hsa money on medical bills and keep our money in the savings. Well all hell broke loose bc apparently he’s serious about getting his teeth whitened, and now I’m nosey as hell bc he has to tell me everything lol. I could have swore that marriage doesn’t have secrets???Y’all. I don not give a flying fuck if he wants to get his teeth whitened. I don’t care if he wants to get hair implants, ass implants, big toe removal, or a fucking nose job. Lol. Like if you know me, you know that I don’t care what he does, when he does it and who he does it with bc I trust him 100% What I do care about is him just being honest from the beginning. I really don’t know how someone can get so upset about that. Plus, I’m his wife- shouldn’t he share that shit w me? Like no I have plans to WHITEN MY TEETH with my HSA MONEY. I Just think it’s all suspicious. Why would someone want to spend savings $ when they have $ on a card that can only go towards medical treatments??? He hasn’t scheduled one dr appointment. Idk I’m confused. And he’s a Dick for how he reacts to situations. He told me he didn’t want to be with me, and somehow it’s turned into my fault for literally having no idea he really didn’t want to pay the remaining balance from his card 😂 y’all. This is ridiculous.

What do y’all think? Sorry such a long post but DAMN!