How to deal with SO who doesn’t clean?

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He refuses to do the dishes, laundry, literally any type of cleaning, ever. I am sick of it. I’m ok with doing most of the cleaning, but all of it, all the time, forever? I’ve talked to him about it but he doesn’t care he expects me to do it. If I don’t, then dirty dishes will sit in the sink forever. The house will be disgusting. I don’t want that! I’m really at a loss on what to do?

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I wouldnt even be able to stay in that situation. That is a dealbreaker for me.

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Tell his lazy ass to get up and clean or have him hire a maid that would happy to clean up after him when compensated.
Now is a time more than ever to have a sanitary living space

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I would leave. I’m not the maid and I’m not wasting my life trying to convince someone to be an adult. He can be filthy on his own 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Couldn’t deal with it. I would go crazy.

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My husband is like this. He doesn’t care if things are dirty. I do the majority of the cleaning. But he knows I care, and when I’m feeling overwhelmed I’ll give him a choice between two chores that need to be done. Like: “Would you rather do the dishes or sweep the floors?” And he’ll choose one and do it 🤷🏻‍♀️ he knows it’s important to me. He never takes initiative himself but I’ve found if I phrase it like that he’ll choose a chore and do it. 
Being direct helps a lot. I also say things like “Will you tidy up your bedside table before the end of the day?” And “Can you cook dinner so I can fold laundry?”

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Does he bring in a six figures? Have a naturally vibrating penis? I’m trying to figure out where that awful sense of entitlement comes from because that doesn’t fly in most peoples relationships.

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I would ask what he wants to do either this chore or that like the other comment said great idea! I pick up the whole house pretty much as well, but when I'm feeling overwhelmed with it all I'll ask him what he wants to do this or that or I'll ask can you do this and he does, he just doesn't take it upon himself to just do it.

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Stop cleaning.

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I’d leave and find an actual adult who wants to have a relationship and not someone be their maid.  I don’t mind picking up the slack here and there just like he does for me on my sick or bad days but you both need to put in effort and share responsibility. Your not his mother and he’s no longer five. Time to grow up or be a bum his whole life.  Good luck

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There is not much to do on your end. He said what he wants and how it will be 2 choices, you accept and be his mommy cleaning after him or you leave and find an adult to have a relationship with. 🤷🏼‍♀️

How to deal with SO who doesn’t clean?

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