What do we need to have discussed before baby arrives?

Ch

Ch

My husband is in the millitary and is being sent to Afghanistan for 6 months from September. I'm 4w 4days pregnant so chances are he'll be away for the birth as it's very unlikely he'll be sent back early. I know it's bad timing but we've been trying for 7 months so we're still counting out blessings.

I just wondered if anyone has any advice on the things we need to discuss/decide before he goes. We've already decided if we want to find out the sex of the baby and he's said he's happy for me to make any decisions I need to if they need to be made quickly or I can't contact him but I'd like to involve him as much as possible so anything we can cover early, I'd like to.

I'm in the UK and don't live on camp (not sure if this will make a difference).

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Mo

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I really can't think of anything they're going to ask you to make a decision about besides the gender. Another one is the NIPT test. If you're not high risk and your insurance doesn't cover it, is it worth the money out of pocket to get the results? It's done around 10 weeks by blood test.The other thing you may want to do is get a living will done. It's never a fun thing to talk about. But he's the one who would make decisions on your behalf in an emergency. Since he may not be there, you should do one before the birth so the hospital is very clear on your wishes. You can bring it with you or give it to whoever is your emergency contact in his absence. They have samples online. It has different scenarios, and you check mark your preferences and make any notes you want. Also, if you don't have close family or friends nearby, perhaps you want to hire a doula. If my husband or mom couldn't be there with me, I would have done so.