What do y’all think?

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So i’m 23 and want to go sleep at my boyfriend’s house am i allowed to, if my parents say no?
Like this may seem like a dumb question but i’m just wondering peoples opinions considering my age.

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You're allowed to do as you wish but they're allowed to kick you out if you dont respect their rules.

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Why do they have to know where you're staying? You're 23. If your living with your parents still then obviously you would respect their wishes and not try to have your boyfriend stay the night at your place but what you do when you leave the house (as long as it's not directly affecting your parents) is your business.

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If you still live with them, no. You need to respect their rules while you live under their roof.

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I mean they must have a damn good reason to say no to their adult daughter maybe you should listen to why they don’t want you to stay over

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i’m sorry but your 23. i agree with respecting rules to an extent, but they can’t control everything you do like your a preteen. it’s silly and ridiculous.

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How to live with strict parents as a young adult:
1. Say you’re going to a certain place then go to another if you know they wouldn’t approve (ex. Tell them you’re seeing a friend when you want to visit your bf)
2. Don’t ask permission for anything (that doesn’t directly affect them). Say “I’m doing this” so that it’s not a question, it’s a statement. They can’t make a decision on your statement, you’re just being courteous by letting them know. 
3. Tell them where you’re going when you go out (again, lie if you have to). This way, they won’t question your whereabouts (hopefully) since you’ve told them. If they still have questions after stating your destination, be ready with reasonable responses. You always have to be able to back up the story. 
I hope this helps you a bit. My parents are immigrants so there was a decent amount of restriction growing up. It got more lax as I got older but I learned how to adapt. I keep relationships private cause that’s a whole other can of worms. Moving out isn’t always the most realistic situation for someone so I never suggest it on posts like these. In this economy, most westerners aren’t stable enough to move out till 25 or later. Things won’t be any better post-pandemic.

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Nope. You're under their roof so you follow their rules regardless of your age and whether you like it or not. If you don't like it then it is time to become independent and find your own place to live. Obviously I agree that at some stage parents have to accept their adult children are having intimate relationships but you make the choice to continue living under their rules whilst you live in their home.

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I was definitely doing what I wanted at 23, but I was living on my own as well.

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What’s their reason?

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I’m not sure... Once we turned 18, if we wanted to live with my parents we either had to be in college/tech or have a job and we would pay them rent. And for them, that meant we could do whatever we wanted without telling them. We could let them know to be nice but because we are adults and paying rent or going to school, they didn’t care.

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