Is this weird?

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So I never really wanted to do all the extra stuff for my pregnancy. I never planned on a baby shower or gender reveal or anything like that i just wanted family and friends to be happy with me without all the expensive extras that just seem extreme to me. I know alot of women love that stuff and thats fine but its just not me. But now I'm being pressured into a baby shower and I personally have no interest in doing it. And I feel like I'm expected to do all of this just to make everyone else happy, but to me I would rather just love my baby and enjoy this pregnancy and not throw parties that will do nothing more than stress me out. Am I the only one who feels this way? And is it weird that I don't have any interest in doing any parties?

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Same!! I'm such an introvert. I told my family from the start no parties.

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I am the exact same way. I told family that wanted to throw a shower that I’d be happy to register somewhere but didn’t want them to spend money on a shower. They have said how my attitude sucks and that I’m not excited to have a baby... it’s just absurd. So at 30 weeks pregnant I’ve slowly purchased things off my registry and we have what we need. I thought not having a shower was considerate since I already have 2 kids and had a wedding last year and had a wedding shower. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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It's OK to feel like that. I have been clear with my mom and friends who expressed interest in planning a shower for me that I (1) have NO money I can contribute and (2) would like to be involved in the planning as little as possible. This deters people who aren't serious, and also lays some good ground rules. Now that being said, I am obviously OK with attending a shower. But if you are super against it, stand your ground. Be direct. Piss people off if you need to. They will get over themselves in time.

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Are they making you throw your own shower that you have to plan and they show upto? Heck no. I had no interest in a shower either, so they made it a surprise which was better for my anxiety I don’t like being the spot light. And it was a little weird but it made them happy in the end so I don’t regret it

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no not weird at all. please don’t do that to please others bc you will regret it and stress is the worst thing for your baby! explain to people that’s not your style, if peo want to mail you gifts they can. Some people just want to spoil you so just have it done in a way that doesn’t make you uncomfortable

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I was the same with my first. I think it’s great if you have a big supportive family, but our families are on the smaller side. To me it just seemed like more stress and disappointment than it was worth. My husband’s family would have been great I bet but my family can be flakey so I just imagined it’d be such a pain to plan and then end up with not a good turn out and we would have ended up buying most the stuff anyways. I was also pressured a few times to have one but stood my ground. Fast forward 2 years and I have never regretted not having one. Also, people who were close to us still bought us stuff anyways. People that care are still going to support you and that’s fine, we just didn’t need an over the top party to prove that.

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I’ve no interest in one and I’m quite pleased that COVID means I have a good excuse. I had the same problem when I got married and felt pressured into a hen party but I held my ground and eventually people realised I was serious about it and stopped asking

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I refuse those too. Don't like it.
We buy things we need ourselves. Try to buy stuff second hand (cheaper and I feel better for environment, these are good things, thet you don't use long). Also friends and family give us their used clothes that tehy did think they can be of use (like baby maybe uses some things only for a week or two, and then he is too big). I don't need parties to accumulate a lot of new stuff. And I see these parties as gathering stuff parties... 😕

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