Is this abuse or a normal response? I was rushing to get ready for work when he got home. There was no mess in the kitchen and our cat had just used the litter box so there was some litter on the mats in front of it. I threw away the Oreos because he screamed at me about not leaving them out but we didn’t have any ziplock bags and it was one of the little packages that don’t reseal. The thing about finger fucking someone is because I had a friend that I worked with that he didn’t like because he said she made me dumber but she was my only friend and I loved hanging out with her