My partner and I have lived together for 2 years and been together for 5,, we used be sexual active everyday.. since I had my son in 2018 (16 weeks prem and now has additional needs) I’m just so tired everyday constantly picking up after my son a puppy and my boyF so I’m usually in bed and asleep before he even thinks about speaking to me after he’s played on his xbox 🙄, Anyways if he asks for it I just say no because

I generally can not be bothered at all if I say no he usually just waits till I’m in a deep sleep then constantly rubs my hands over my nips, if I say no he normally waits 10/15 minutes then

Tries again. Basically he does it until I get fed up and tell him to hurry up. Is this normal? Is it rape? Isit just me not putting out? 😩