So angry at my husband! I want to walk out on him for this!

So my husband and I have been together for almost 7 years now. We just had our first child back in January. Due to COVID we’ve had trouble getting his vaccines done on the normal schedule. Now this isn’t really an issue as both my husband and I are fully up to date ourselves and with COVID no one else could even visit.

Well restrictions started to lift recently for us. You are able to have up to 2 other households in your social circle right now. We had my parents over to see their grandson last week. Of course my husband’s parents want to visit as well. Now, months before the baby was born I spoke to all our family and close friends about which vaccinations they needed to ensure they had if they wanted to meet the baby at our home, hold him, etc. My husband and I discussed this before we were married, again before we got pregnant and again before the baby was born. He knows how I feel about vaccines and protecting my kids. The main reason I’ve been so tough on this issue is my husband’s mother is anti-vax and she also frequently ill herself due to health issues (doctors have told her to get vaccinated to help, she refuses and hardly seeks medical attention opting for smoothies and essential oils- that’s fine, but it means she’s a big risk for a young child that’s not vaccinated). She’s also not a very hygienic person (she doesn’t like to bathe frequently, minimal cleaning of her home, garbage piling up, etc) and that makes me more concerned.

Well, when my MIL called about wanting to visit last week my husband told her no without saying anything to me- just said ‘mum we told you, you can’t meet the baby without vaccinations. Once he’s fully vaccinated we’ll bring him to meet you’. I didn’t think about it again. Well, turns out two days ago my husband brought my son to meet his mother. His mother is currently sick with some respiratory illness she’s been complaining about for the last week (anyone else thinking COVID?) I am BEYOND angry.

He put our baby’s health at risk. His mother could have anything right now. He lied to me about it too when I saw pictures on Facebook and confronted him. He’s claiming his mom just showed up and pushed in, but I know my house those pictures were NOT taken here. They were taken in her home and it’s obvious. Our whole relationship he’s told me he’s pro-vaccines. He got himself vaccinated as an adult, was always supportive of my opinions and helped come up with our plan to keep our child safe. Yet now he just violates that?!? Like what? I’ve packed a bag for myself and my son (I’m still breastfeeding so he’s not being separated from me nor will he take a bottle- plus my husband obviously does not care about his child’s health). My son’s immune system can’t be strong. He’s unvaccinated and due to limited contact with the world with COVID his body won’t have had the chance to develop antibodies to other possible pathogens. He’s at risk! And my husband exposed him to what could be COVID or some other illness or bug his mother is carrying. I just want to take my son to my parents and stay there. I don’t want to stick around someone who could betray me like this! I feel like staying is putting my baby at risk.

** I do NOT need any comments arguing wether vaccines are good or bad. I have my scientifically backed opinion and it won’t change. If you disagree with vaccines and cannot give constructive advice please keep your comment to yourself**