Confused...so confused

I’ve never been so confused about my cycle and the sh!t show that goes on every month in my life! I had pink spotting yesterday (12 dpo) when I wiped and did not see anymore spotting for the rest of the day, negative hpt. Today (13 dpo) I wiped and had what looked like ewcm with brown spotting, again negative hpt and no more spotting since. My boobs are SUPER sore and I’m a little crampy. AF is coming tomorrow (allegedly) so I guess we will see what happens 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m counting myself out this month though because the tests all come back negative and normally I see a vvvfl at around 8/9 dpo. Anybody else experiencing or have experienced something similar??

Side note: I never spot before af. She shows up and shows OUT without warning.