He Bashed Me To My Parents

My bf and I visited my parents who live a few hours away today. I already don’t have a good relationship with them. The entire car ride there my bf and I argued about politics. he doesn’t believe in this BLM movement but I do and he doesn’t like that. All I was trying to do was educate him.

As soon as we got my parents house he stood outside and wouldn’t come in. My dad immediately yelled at me for not waiting for him but I’m not his mom and it’s 100 degrees outside and I don’t feel like I should have had to.

My dad and him left and when they came back my dad was even more mad at me. Everytime I said something my dad had a comment or ignored me. I made the comment about going with my mom to the store and he said “FINALLY THANK GOD” and acted excited and happy. A few conversations later I made the comment about having a hysterectomy that my dr recommended due to health issues and my bf argued saying I shouldnt have one and said “You’re already a big enough bitch as it is and I can hardly deal with you now.” My dad nodded in agreement. My mom was clearly irritated by this but of course never says anything because it’ll be her getting my dads wrath later.

I asked my dad if I could keep my kids at his house while I ran with my mom to the store and he told me no. I mentioned how he hardly sees them and figured he would want to spend some time with them and he told me that if I keep my kids there he would teach them to say the N-word. He even tried to teach my oldest daughter that and it scared her because she’s not used to that language and she started crying. I immediately grabbed my kids and went to the store and bitched at my mom about how that’s not okay, in which she agreed but said “what can we do? Men make all the Money.”

When we got back we ate and then my kids and immediately left. My bf bragged to new about how he told my dad “this and this and this” about me. Basically talking shit about me. He told my dad that I verbally berated him the entire way there, which isn’t true. Because I told him that he needed to stop being ignorant and agreeing with everyone on Facebook and actually educate himself on these matters, I was being abusive. He told my dad I don’t appreciate him and am always mean to him and that I physically abuse him, which I have on video him admitting that that’s not true. I felt I had to start recording because the accusations he’s making are horrible and not true and he was admitting to lying so I felt for possible future events I might need that moment recorded.

My mom and dad gave my kids crayons and coloring books and my bf told them they couldn’t have them and that they were being thrown away. I told him to pull over and get out of my car and he refused.

I don’t have a job, I have no money and my parents won’t help me so I feel stuck. But I need to leave this man. I feel so sick being here. I’ve lost respect for him and my parents and I’m now scared for my kids and I to be here with him. And no, a women’s shelter isn’t an option, I tried but because of covid, they aren’t open. I don’t have any friends or family either. My entire family outcasted my dad and us so I don’t know them and Ive always been a loner so I don’t have a lot of friends, and the ones I do have can’t help.