So only issues my marriage has is sex.

Last week in the middle of sex he got soft. I played it off cool like I wasn’t upset (I’m having severe self esteem issues) anyways this is a big issue. He’s never aroused, we have to schedule sex because that’s the only way it works. He has pills but refuses to take them. So the next day I try talking to him again about it trying to figure out what he wants us to do. So I ask if he wants to take a little break and focus on getting back in shape and just us. He said no he wants me. So I research ways to help him without taking medication. And I found a cock ring could help. So I seductively mention it and at the time he was all for it.

Well I go to a store and buy the damn thing. So last night was the first time I saw him in a week because of his rotating shift. I couldn’t sleep and was still up when he got home. He comes to the closet where I’m trying to find clothes to wear for today and asks if I got a cock ring (I didn’t tell him what it was I was trying to tease to make it more fun and relaxed) and I said “maybe maybe not” and winked and he said “Absolutely not. Maybe if we go on vacation but no I will not wear that” and I’m just shocked. He told me he would try. So of course I’m hurt. I’m once again thinking it’s me and the weight I gained.

I don’t really know what to do anymore. I don’t know if I need to give him space or what. I’m just at a loss. I begged him to tell me what he wanted me to do and he couldn’t answer me. I just feel like a failure! 😔