My husband and I are expecting baby #2. We’ve been together since high school and yeah, that’s special. But it hasnt always been flowers and rainbows. I often times find myself carrying the marriage. He doesnt know how to handle things so I’m left to handle them on my own. He does do stuff around the house, which I’m grateful for, but any brainwork.. it’s me. He expects me to pay for half of everything still and I also just feel like I don’t really get treated the way I should be. He has temper tantrums so bad where I feel like I’m walking on eggshells all the time. He lashes out at our son for literally any reason, so I’m sure he feels like he’s walking on eggshells, too. He’s 8.

I love him so much. He is a great father and a wonderful husband. But sometimes when I see posts about how amazing you guys have it, I get really sad. He doesn’t rub my back when it hurts or draw me a bath without asking. It’s a struggle to have him do basically anything for me. I ask him for very little because of it. I find myself fantasizing about other relationships and how well other women get treated. Wishing he would one day treat me that way. I don’t know. I sound weak writing this. What should I do? There’s counseling and we plan on doing that, but due to COVID it’s on hold. Any insight will help. Thanks