what can i do about my nonexistent sex drive?

my boyfriend and i have been together for about 10 months now. we’re very serious and absolutely in love and i know i want to spend the rest of my life with him. but, for some reason, my sex drive has disappeared.

i’ve been on birth control (the pill) for a few years which could be contributing, plus i started college the same month we started dating so i’ve had a lot of change and new stress in my life since we’ve been together.

the issue isn’t that i’m not attracted to him or anything, it’s just that i don’t really feel horny very much any more. i want to have sex every once in awhile, but it goes away really quickly. what makes it more confusing is that before i started dating him, i went through a hoe phase. my sex drive was through the roof and i was ALWAYS down. i’ve always been a lil freaky and sex is important to me in relationships. i miss having good sex and feeling that connection, especially with my soulmate.

i also feel awful for my boyfriend. it makes him feel insecure and like i’m not attracted to him. we don’t have the best sex in the world whenever we do get the chance to but that’s because i live with my parents and we always have sex at my house, so we can’t be loud and rowdy like we usually would. sometimes i even think about guys i hooked up with in the past because the sex was good but i think it’s because i was able to have sex with them how i like to and without having to be super quiet. the sex we do have is still better than nothing but i guess that could possibly be part of the issue too? i just want to have a healthy sex life and great sex again and it’s even more important to me because i love my boyfriend and miss feeling sexy and turned on and excited to have sex with him.

i’m seeing my OBGYN soon to talk about this and to maybe switch birth control methods but i still wanted to ask if any of you have advice on what could be causing this or if there’s anything i can do?