Confused on who should be my birth partner đ
Due to covid19, we are only allowed one birth partner and I am confused on who to choose between my husband and my mum. I know a lot of peopleâs first instinct will be âwhy are you confused? It should be your husbandâ... I know I should choose my husband because afterall he is my husband and this is his child, but my husband has zero knowledge about emotional support... you know how you would want someone who is there with you to hold you, be emotionally there, to know what to do, to know how to stop something that is being done that isnât right, know what to do with baby after baby is born... well that isnât my husband.. he is clueless about things like that. I could actually come out of the hospital today and in the next few hours, my husband would ask me what Iâm cooking for lunch... yeah thatâs the kind of person he is. My mum on the other hand is my biggest support system... she would know everything to do while Iâm giving birth and after and she would emotionally support me through the process.
Long story short, I want to choose my mum, but my husband is not having any of it as he keeps saying that he is the one that should be there. So now I donât know what to do. Choosing my mum would mean my husband losing out on experiencing the birth of his child and knowing the kind of person he is, he would have a fight with me because of that.
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Thank you all for your advise. I really appreciate them and I am putting every advice into consideration.
I have read a few assumptions in the comment session that I wouldnât know how my husband will be in the delivery room since I havenât given birth. Can I just clarify that this is our second child... for my first pregnancy, my husband and my mother were present during the delivery so I saw how they both handled the situation... hence why I made references to the level of support that I would receive from the both of them.
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