So I already posted about reconnecting with an old friend who recently came out as nonbinary, but I need my homophobic/transphobic parents approval to hang out with them again. I was worried about pronouns and dead names and being banned from being friends. I can’t find the post, but I did ask my friend what to do and they said that I don’t have to talk to my parents about it and they’ll be fine. My parents are okay with us hanging out again, knowing them by their dead name of course.

I did have a small anxiety attack when I asked my mom, because she is scary as shit and I know that my mom never really liked them. And I legit forgot their dead name when I asked to hang out with them. It legit took me a couple minutes to remember the name I knew them by and have used since kindergarten up until about a year ago. Dead names are whack. You just forget it exists and then you hear it and you flip out like oh no don’t don’t say that.

So, I’m going to hang out with them soon and they’re okay with my parents using their dead name and I can’t wait to see them again. (A small part of me is convincing myself that they don’t actually want to be my friend again and it sucks cause that’s why we stopped being friends in the first place because I thought they stopped liking me and I just-) But I really missed them and it’s probably fine