Confused if we should have a baby or not

Drea

Long story short, my bf is enlisting into the navy within the next 2-3 months and he first wanted to wait to have a baby after he was fully out of service. The other day he thought about it and doesn’t want to wait like 8 years to have a kid, his other reason was if something were to happen to him in service he would want to have a child welcomed in the world and to at least know for me I would have his baby. The thing is is idk how it works, well let’s just say I’m scared to be pregnant while he is away, he wouldn’t see the baby being born or just be there throughout my pregnancy. We are getting Married soon that way I can go with him after boot camp if he leaves out of state or wherever. The thing I worry is that I’ll be alone if I was pregnant and not have my moms help if I were to leave. If I did stay I would have help and everything. I just don’t know if we’re married and do have a baby I know there are family benefits but does that mean I would have to go with him to get those benefits? I’m just stuck on if we should wait to have a baby or what. I would want my family there to help me but if I left with my bf I would be alone until he would come back