Apologies in advance for the long post..

I really thought a few weeks ago that I wouldn't have to think about this again as my husband and I agreed we did not want my MIL coming to "help" with the baby once he's born but it was brought up again today and it's really starting to irritate me..

A little backstory, we've been married for 2 years and are expecting our little boy at the end of August.. when we started getting more serious in our relationship, his mum was not on board. She met me once and decided I was not right for her son based on where I am from, and turned his family against me. He decided to marry me anyway and it caused a lot of friction in his family. They didn't come to our wedding and didn't talk to me at all, just pretended I didn't exist in fact. He would see them almost weekly and talk to them often, but alone.

When the news came that we were expecting, they decided it was time to make amends and invited us over for dinner. Never was the subject addressed, nor did I ever recieve any form of apology from anyone in the family.. they just acted like everything was fine and got on with life..

His mum knows that my mum will not be able to make it to the birth of our son as she lives in the US, and us in the UK. So she has offered to come and stay with us for a few weeks after the birth to help out. At the time I kindly rejected the offer and told her I will be fine. Since then she has spoken multiple times to my husband and mentioned she would like to him, to which he has also declined but she seems adamant. She has even mentioned it to his aunt that she will ne coming to stay with us a while..

All of the above makes it rather awkward for me to have her around, I don't feel like I can truly relax and be myself. After giving birth I am sure the last thing I want to think about is having a guest in my house. I am not comfortable around her enough to let her do anything for me like cook and clean so I feel like I would have to be top of my game with everything housework related which would be such an inconvenience for me.. I don't want to sound ungrateful, I'm just not comfortable around her and don't want to test those waters while I'm in such a vulnerable state..

Any advice would be much appreciated..