Any suggestions ?

My son will be two in October n I want to get him to stop being used to a new born feel, what I mean by that is he still wants to be rocked to take a nap and when he is going to sleep, so he hasn’t learned to put himself to sleep yet, we are struggling with the removal of bottle, he lays on my chest from time to time and will curl himself on me like how you would have a baby in a swaddle ( I believe it’s called) pretty much he will tuck his hands inside by his stomach

As far as speech he said words but trying to put them together he’s making sounds

I’m a first time mom and I don’t want him delaying In anything.

His dad says I baby him to much cause he going on 2 years old

My son throws tantrums when he doesn’t get what he wants.

Overall I would really like some advice about this because I feel clueless and ashamed at myself