Am I ruining my marriage?

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I have never been religious, but agreed to convert when I married. I was only 20 at the time and my husband was 27. The pastor who married us gave this whole speech about how a wife is supposed to be submissive and if she’s not, her prayers will be hindered. She shouldn’t yell or argue with her husband when there’s a problem, she should just pray. Because if a submissive wife prays, God will deal with the husband for the wife. Made a joke about how if he asks for eggs, I better get them. Everyone else laughed. 
I was very naive at the time and didn’t really consider what I was agreeing to when it came to those vows and marriage in general. I now regret agreeing to be submissive and to convert to his religion. I have tried to tell my husband many times that I no longer want to participate in his faith because I honestly don’t agree with the teachings or even believe in God at this time. I’ve put a lot of thought into this and his faith doesn’t align with my views. I’ve asked that he does not include me in anything regarding his religion and allow me to have my own relationship with God if there is one. He literally said no and said that my vows cannot be broken. Every time I bring it up, he just says no and that I’m ruining our marriage. He will then act as if I never spoke to him about it the next day, and almost try harder to convince me that his beliefs are the truth. 
Am I doing something wrong here? I don’t understand why a person can’t grow and change their views.. what do my beliefs have to do with him?

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I would leave his entitled, chauvinistic ass faster than he could say “Amen.”

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You're not wrong, I mean you're entitled to feel however you feel. But, religious people who are firm in their faith are FIRM in their faith, so i feel like if you agreed to it and he takes the vows seriously due to his faith, i can see how he might feel betrayed. I've found in dealing with my MIL there is literally no winning, ever. Its not a bad thing and I'd never come down on someone for their faith, but if youre not going to mesh in your marriage because of it, it might be time to consider splitting up. It goes both ways ... respect their faith, but they also must respect your faith, whatever it may be. 
I've had far too many religious debates with people lately so my point of view is that in the end it all comes down to respect.  Both ways.

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You should get divorced. You don’t sound compatible and it was probably a mistake to agree to be religious if you’d not believe in it.

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I dont think hes wrong for having a FIRM belief in his religion. But being 20 when you got married, your were an adult and made a vow. So you can either stick with your vow or get divorced, its not easy but you cant go back in time-

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I would divorce honestly.  He went into the marriage with you being an active part of his life and religion is a large o3art of that.  
You almost blindly agreed to thubgs you didnt have information or knowledge about, and now that you do, you are entitled to not want to partake.  BUT that means he is also able to not want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't follow the same path.

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Yeah id file for divorce.

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Been there, done this. My advice... Divorce.

Am I ruining my marriage?

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