Why did he bring up my miscarriage 😡

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Like.. I told dude I’m not interested in being with anyone who already has kids, and he’s gonna say “ well technically you we’re pregnant before and I’m sorry you lost your child but that still count I really wanna be with you blah blah blah “ WTF dude... how insensitive and inconsiderate is that? Now I have to think about the loss of my baby.. so fucking selfish 🙄

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Maybe I’m reading it wrong but I took it as him telling you that you are still a parent even though your baby isn’t physically here so he feels it wouldn’t be right for you not to date him for being a parent too.🤷🏽‍♀️ he may not have worded it in the best way but I honestly don’t think he was being insensitive rather than letting you know your still a mom

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What a dick. Those aren’t even close to comparable.

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How does this guy know you miscarried? But you do not have to date someone with kids. People should respect that. Using your loss against you in an argument is pathetic. Block him.

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Unpopular opinion but I don’t believe he meant it in a malicious way. Your child passed,but your still a parent. He worded it not the best way sure.

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What a dick. You don't owe him anything just because you have been pregnant before, that doesn't change that you don't want to date someone who has children. The balls on some guys. And to bring that up as leverage to give him a chance is a low blow and speaks volumes of his character.

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What an asshole!! And honestly even if he was well intentioned that still doesn’t give him the right to manipulate you like that!!!!

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I don’t think he meant it in a mean way. But you still have your own choice to date him or not, I think those two things are separate and he shouldn’t even have brought it up. Even if he thinks you’re hypocritical it’s still your decision and arguing over it is definitely not gonna win you over 🤦‍♀️

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Most guys definitely don't understand how heartbreaking it is to go through a miscarriage and will make any attempt possible to get what they want. By what you wrote, it seems like he barely knows you cause if he did, he wouldn't have brought up that difficult time in your life. You deserve better. Fuck him.

Why did he bring up my miscarriage 😡

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