Death to the XBOX!!!

I've been with my SO for two years. He's a big gamer and his life is basically consumed by video games and his online friends that he plays with. I enjoy playing video games too and that's actually how I met him...odd, I know. He's constantly busy playing games. I married him 2 months ago. I love him more than anything and have expressed my concerns about him playing video games all the time. Apparently he doesn't think it's an issue. This seems to be a common problem in relationships and just as common of a reason for separation. We're planning on having a tubal reversal done in March and I'm starting to wonder if I'll ever manage to get pregnant because he's always playing his video games...will he have time for a new baby? I work most everyday and try to initiate conversations through text when I'm not busy. It's either no response or an extremely short one. I really miss our conversations and time together :-( Why is a video game more important than time with me or building a better relationship. I feel more like a mom to him instead of a wife. I'm competing with a plastic box full of gadgets and parts unknown to me. Our conversations that we do have are about the same things...so redundant. My needs and how they're not being tended to and how he could help fix the problem...and of course an apology and the famous "it'll get better"... I'm a caregiver and I'm constantly doing things for other people. Things are so one sided and I feel tired and used up at this point. I'm always consistent but I'm tired of a stagnant life. I'm driven by anticipation of what next as far as me working but what's next?... I go through each day with the goal of not losing my shit and falling apart emotionally. I'm just frustrated and needed to vent. I'd really like to run over his xbox multiple times, drag it down the road, set it on fire and tell him to play with it now. He can't possibly care if he's not bothering to make a better effort to put me first. He's always first, ALWAYS!!! I literally have the lowest expectations from people just to keep from getting disappointed and I still manage to get hurt :-(