The patch birth control

Hey girls so my mom has the patch birth control she has no problems with it. But I would like to try it but didn’t have a good experience with my other birth control that were the pills and I bleed without having my period and felt nauseous. I’m worried because my first abortion was at age 17 with the pills at planned parenthood and recently had a surgical abortion I’m fearful really fearful or getting pregnant again. I’m married but my husband and me weren’t ready for another child my husband cried because he said maybe it’s the boy I want since we just have a one year old girl. And I have a 5 year old son from my ex. So today I just gave my husband a blow job since he was horny when I’m done bleeding he will want to be intimate and I want to feel close to my husband again to be honest I miss him. Scared to have a bad experience with birth control would like to tie my tubes at 21 but my husband wants more kids don’t know if I want more