Advice

I need advise

Sooo my husband and I have been together for 6 years now and married for 3.

We have one son who is now 1

I can literally count how many time his family has come to see him, so it’s safe to say the relationship there is non existent

I’m working from home right now due to COVID and so my son goes to my mothers house because I don’t like to keep him cooped up in one room, he’s a toddler he likes to move around and play and be loud

My job consists of me being on the phone a lot and my calls are recorded so I need to have as minimal noise as possible.

Last night my husband decided that he wanted to take our son to his mothers house to visit while I’m at work

I’m super paranoid of him going over there

One because every time I have been to her house it is so dirty and dusty and just unkept

My son grabs everything and everything goes in his mouth

The thought of that just kills me especially with Covid

On top of that when she doesn’t see him he cries when she picks him up because she doesn’t know him. I’m not gonna put him under that stress when I won’t be there to comfort him

I know I sound like a super paranoid mom, but I almost lost my son at 30 weeks so forgive me if my paranoia isn’t gone. I’m super picky about where he goes

I’m husband watched him once a week on his day off and when it’s my break or lunch time, it seems like every time I pick him up his diaper is dirty and then he gets a rash...like come on? My husband is constantly on his phone and that’s why he doesn’t realize that his diaper needs to be changed until I see it...I’ve told him time and time again you need to be checking him and you need to keep an eye on him...he is more important than your phone. So I guess you could say I don’t trust him alone with him....he is not responsible enough...if he can’t even handle it when I’m home how will he handle it without me being there....

Now my husband is playing the card that I think my family is better because my mom watches him during the week...what does he expect me to do? I can’t keep him cooped up or make my mom whisper all day by keeping him here...

I’m just so fed up with the nonsense