My daughters dad and I broke up back in January. Our relationship had gotten so bad, we had to split up. He tried to get me back the first couple months and I was so hurt and looking out for myself I didn’t want to go back. I wanted to see a change in him, I wanted to become a better version of myself as well.

Now we’re almost 6 months in. We are still dealing with each other and I want to give it another try. Not only because I am madly in love with him but because of our daughter. We spend a lot of time together, I sleep over his house a lot with our daughter. Maybe once or twice a week I’m at my house BUT I know in my heart during those days he’s seeing someone else.

I have tried getting advice everywhere and everyone says the same thing. Give him space, don’t look for him, don’t chase him. Let him come to you. Because right now he’s enjoying his single life. But I’m very impatient and hate to know that he’s with someone else. I know him very well. He’s told me he’s talking to other people but not dating them, supposedly. But his kids have told me he was leaving every night, he was constantly going out. He’s texting a lot of girls.

Now recently he’s been inviting me to spend the night a lot more. We literally spend all weekend together from Friday to Sunday and even Sunday he asked me to stay but I don’t always want to be available so I said I couldn’t and had something to do. I have backed off a little because at times I feel he’s only having me there because of our daughter but he’s always able to take her when he wants WITHOUT me so it kind of

Confuses me as to why he asks me to spend the night. He wanted to spend 4th or July with us, and I was suppose to go over that day but he asked if I wanted to go over the night before so we could already be there. I’m just so confused as to why he can’t stop talking to who ever he’s talking to or seeing. Honestly I have not seen it with my own eyes I’m just going based off what his kids said and also him telling me his “talking” to other people. When I’ve brought it up before he says “I’m not dating anyone and I’m not talking to them how you think, I don’t want a relationship with anyone”

For example, the night before yesterday I spend the night. I went to work the next day which was yesterday and my daughter stayed at his house with his mom. She came over to watch her while we both went to work. I came back to his house, he wasn’t home so I called him and he told me he was still working. I didn’t believe him but I just went along with it as everyone keeps telling me not to show any reaction or accuse him of anything. So I left it alone and my daughter and I left back to my house. He told me yesterday if I wanted to do something today since it was my day off, he would try to get off work earlier. And I got excited because I literally just seen him and he wants to see me again and then he said he would call later to check on us...never heard from him. And still haven’t heard from him... I talked to my uncle and he said guys are guys. He could be with someone else or he could be out with friends. But that same morning we got into it and he texted me while I was at work yesterday and sent me this text.

I had called to apologize because we got I to a little dispute and I stormed off without saying goodbye that morning and this was his response to that. I think the only reason I have stopped chasing him is because I wanted him to show me. And the last couple of days we haven’t slept together either but maybe because our daughter has been between us and he has drank himself to sleep (not drunk) but he does drink a lot which makes him sleepy and on top of that he smokes. I’m just extremely confused ladies. I love him so much and Everytime I tell him we can go out separate ways on good terms if he’s already interested in someone else he says no. If I tell him I will stop he doenst want to. But yet in my heart I know that he’s seeing other people and he won’t stop telling me

To come over. He wanted to cook dinner together the other day, he wanted to listen to his old records as well together. He does nice things for us together so it confuses me some much. And All I want is to have him back. I know he loves me cause he will randomly come and kiss me, hug me, asks how my day is going... but he won’t get back into a relationship wit me just yet.