No judgement please, serious parent advice.

My son has got out of hand. He is 5, and I sometimes can't stand to be around him because of the fight to punsh. I dread him coming home from school.

We used to spank his butt, and that stopped working when he would just laugh at it. If we spanked any harder, then there would be marks. We went to time out in the chair for 5 mins but that was a waste because in order for him to sit there I have to hold him there, then he screams. I've sat there and kept him in time out till he stopped screaming because he ended up falling asleep. We have tried the face in the corner which also he screams and tore the wall paper off. I also have a 10 month old and can't always stand there to hold him in time out as I have to address my baby.

For two weeks he has completely lost toys and tv, but that's not working either. He uses words such as, I don't love you, I don't want to be around you, but when I fake leave he will scream for me to not leave then when I don't leave he laughs.

His bi dad has adhd and bi poler. He see's his dad once a week, for 2 hours (court ordered) because his dad has serious anger issues.

When I talked to him about meeting with the Dr and maybe putting him on meds he absolutely refused. Called me a bad parent, says I'm labeling our son, and so on. He's on meds himself for bi poler and adhd, and don't believe it can be passed down.

I'm just at a lost. I absolutely love my son, but I can't deal and don't know how to deal with this anymore. It's effecting everything!