How do you super moms/dads cope with 2 or more under 2?! 🤷🏽‍♀️

Question

So.. we are expecting our new little bundle of joy in January! We feel so blessed and excited... however, it’s just dawned on me I will have to manage 2 children under 2! 
My husband travelled a fair bit for work before covid and I’m worried it could soon return and I’ll be having to manage them on my own. 
I have so many stupid questions running round my head!!!! 🙈
What do I do with one of them if the other needs to go down for a nap?
What if I need to change a nappy while another one is upset/needs attending to?? It’s hard enough changing a nappy of a toddler who has 100 other things on his agenda without a baby there too!
How do I cope with a toddler if a newborn has me up 100000000 times in the night!?
How early can you encourage toddlers to do things like dress themselves? 🤷🏽‍♀️😂
Ok so these things kind of seem silly now I’ve wrote them down but it just seems so overwhelming!
Please comment your magical experiences of 2 under 2 to reassure a panicking mother! 😘😄

Answer

It sounds insane but you’ll adjust it’s tough at first, I’m not gonna lie, but trying to give yourself grace and finding a rhythm/ routine that fits your family is the best way to manage. Things that helped: trying to get them to nap together at some point in the day was great, finding quiet activities to keep your toddler busy when the baby needed more attention was also helpful. Realistically it is difficult to get your toddler to do too much on their own but definitely encourage him to try to get himself dressed. I will soon have 3 under 4 so obviously it wasn’t impossible 😂 goodluck

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I have 4 kids and they're all about 2 yrs apart or a little less. I love it. It's hard in the beginning, but every 3 months I noticed an improvement. My biggest challenge was when we moved to a 2 story house and my other 3 kids couldn't be left alone while I went to put baby to nap. So I honestly put something on TV they like with a little snack, and baby had a downstairs napping place. You'll figure out little tricks.

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Mine are 19 months apart. Get your oldest involved with helping baby. Mine takes diapers to the trash, gets the blanket for baby, brings me a bottle when dad makes it. We sleep trained our now toddler at six months so his nap and night time sleep he puts himself to sleep. I just lay him down in bed. So if baby is up I just set her in the swing and go lay him down. When I feed baby I usually do it on our bed so I bring our oldest up there with me and give him something to play with. Usually something that isn’t a usual toy for example my husbands watch container. I empty it out and it occupies him because it’s not normally something he gets to play with. Our second baby is a dream, she’s content laying on the floor watching us or in her swing when she’s not asleep. I do put her in her room for naps so me and older baby can do stuff together without worrying about waking her up. I have a sound machine in her room to block out some of the noise. I just get her nice and sleepy and then go rock her for like two minutes and she’ll fall asleep or I put her down drowsy and within five minutes she’s asleep. I also remember to tell my oldest, mommy’s taking care of sissy right now you will have to wait a minute for example if I’m feeding baby and he wants a snack. I know he can wait. We had a really good routine before she came so I worked In baby around it I guess you could say. Our oldest bed time is 7. So me or my husband lay him down and then I try to get baby asleep around the same time, lights off, sound machine on so she knows we’re winding down for the day. Whenever she goes to sleep I go to sleep. But honestly I felt like I needed less sleep to function the second time around. And It’s not often I can get them both to nap at the same time though. It’s been an adjustment for sure but not terrible. Our oldest has done wonderful and has learned to be gentle very fast. He throws tantrums but he’ll be two next month and I expect that anyway. There’s bad days for sure but there was with just one baby. She’s four months now and time has flown by so far.

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Mine will be 12 months apart. I don’t have the slightest clue what I’ll do.  But I’m excited (and scared—let’s be honest)

How do you super moms/dads cope with 2 or more under 2?! 🤷🏽‍♀️

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