I need to vent!

Hi Ladies.

I’m just here for a vent about my Mother.

I’m currently 25 weeks pregnant with our second baby boy.

One of my best friends approached me a few weeks ago and asked if I would be ok with her organising my baby shower (I didn’t have a shower for my first as I was in a different continent to my friends and family).

Now this friend and my Mother don’t speak because of a stupid argument they had 6 years ago and my Mother is unable to get over it. She throws it at me most of the time. I actually think she was in the wrong, but anyway, it’s so long ago that does it really matter. It makes my life hard. Our two eldest boys are friends and we are super close. So events where they will be together make me anxious.

So I said yes, as long as my Mother was included. She said she had checked with my Sister and we were good to go!

A week later, my mother brings up doing a baby shower. I’m like, well my friend is organising it. Turns out my sister forgot to mention it and that started things again. My mother saying she just wouldn’t come. Anyway, I ended up saying if people can’t play nice for one afternoon, then I won’t bother.

My mother was also upset at the fact that my friend made a group chat with my sister, another close friend and my Mam wasn’t included. Baring in mind my Mother has had my friend blocked on Facebook for 6 years.

I don’t want to have two baby showers, one for friends and one for family. To me, it’s one of none. So it looks like it’s none. I’m upset that my Mam can’t put aside her differences for one afternoon for me.

So tonight, I talked to her about baby names. We have an Odin, so our second baby has to also have a unique name. My husband and I quite like Axel. She’s pretty much told me that she absolutely despises that name and would never ever come round to it. Not like saying “oh I’ll think about it or maybe it will grow on me.” Just outright hates it.

I realise it’s not her baby and that we can name him what we want, but my word, I’m just so frustrated with her selfish attitude!!!

I love her to bits, but this woman is just so negative about everything. It’s also so incredibly childish. I’m trying to have the best experience I can. My husband and I have been separated due to COVID since March, so things are emotionally a struggle for me anyway, without all this extra crap on top of it.

URGH FAMILIES!!!

If you made it through this, thank you for listening !! Xx