What's a normal argument like?

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I've only ever been in abusive relationships and I haven't got a clue. How  does a normal argument go with your S/O?

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we usually bitch about a disagreement until we realize we arent getting anywhere, so we leave each other alone and thwn go back to each other later to talk it through.

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Actually I’ve never had an argument with someone that I was on a relationship with, if issues arose, we discussed it and things got resolved. Yelling and screaming resolves nothing. The minute you raise your voice, they stop listening. I’ve just learned how to deal with men over the years, I grew up in a house with 7 boys and been in a ton of abusive relationships to know what I don’t want, what I won’t tolerate or accept and any form of abuse is on my list... But for other people, it should not entail yelling and screaming or hitting walls with their fists or belittling or name calling or guilt or manipulation or control or disrespect or slamming doors or leaving or not coming back etc. it’s one thing to go into another room to calm down it’s another to leave and go to a bar or another woman’s house....I grill men before I date them. How do you deal with anger or stress or mental issues that you may have and how will you take it out on me. Are you jealous or possessive or insecure or controlling or have rage issues. Effort and consistency are very important to me, if you stop making the effort, so will I, I do not chase after a man. Drinking, drugs, smoking, std/sti, health issues. I can go on and on. Took a month and a half for my dude just to get a kiss. He had a crush on me for over 2 years. Another guy I was dating, has been after me 10-20 years lol.

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I grew up thinking arguing was normal. Now I do not think that is so. When my fiancé and I disagree on something he gives me a cooling off period. He never talks to me when I am upset because I’m incredibly hot headed. He will come back a few hours later and tell me that he loves me and nothing will change that. We then discuss whatever the issue was, only looking for a resolution. The next day or a few days later we are able to discuss how we felt about the situation because the situation has already been resolved. 
He stayed out later than I liked one evening. I was livid. The next morning he asked what I felt was an appropriate time was for him to be back in the house. I told him my suggested time. He suggested a different time. We met somewhere in the middle, and he said that he would not be out later than that again barring an emergency that he would make sure I was aware of.  Days later we discussed why I was so angry about it, and the issue had already been fixed so I couldn’t really get upset about it again

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You need therapy so you can break this cycle of being in abusive relationships. There’s a reason this keeps happening but you can’t stop it and find a healthy relationship.

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We are very open with our communication. Hardly ever do we need to fight or argue because we’re just open and honest about how we feel. When we do argue it’s usually over quick and we apologize and go on about our day. But we never name call, throw things or anything of that nature. The worst we may do is raise our voices lol

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If something comes up that upsets me, I take a minute to think it through. If it's something that needs to be discussed I will bring it up and explain my side of it. He explains his side and then one or both of us apologize for our part in it depending on the issue. After that we drop it and it's never brought up again.

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My last relationship was my first healthier one. 
When we argued, we got mad, but we were not really mean to each other, we just kinda got short with each other, not direct insults, no name calling, no manipulation- just huffs and puffs or a stressful talk. We'd try to hear each other out after & we'd basically accept each other & let it go.
We both hated fighting, so it only really happened a few times.

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I have to admit our arguments can get a little heated. They are never huge arguments and we rarely argue or disagree. 
We swear and usually say “fuck off” or call each other “dickheads” lol but we say those things in our normal day to day life anyway (playfully of course)
We normally argue, ill leave for a while (cause i drive) come back later and we just talk about it or just have a kiss and cuddle and go to bed depending on what time of the day.

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We don’t name call or call each other out of our names, period. We don’t do the accusatory stuff either. Sometimes we need a few minutes to cool off before we talk about whatever needs to be talked about but we always nip it in the bud before the end of the day and NEVER go to bed mad, sad or upset with each other. There’s no yelling or screaming at each other either. We grew up around that with both of our parents and never want to be like that. 
We’re probably the odd balls here but we’ve never been into the “make up sex” or “angry sex”. We never want that type of energy involved when we’re having sex.

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