So I don’t really know how to start this but I have 4 months until my little boy is here and I keep having these awful thoughts so a little back story my fiancé’s mom I adore don’t get me wrong and she’s more of a mom to me then my biological one so essentially her daughter had a little boy he is 3 now but his whole life he has been attached to nana (which is his mom) but it’s because she raised him his sister was dealing with some addiction so she really needed the help so he always slept with nana and was feed by nana and everything and now I have a feeling she’s going to try with our baby and again I don’t mind her taking our baby if we need some rest or when we go visit but I was talking to my fiancé about how I just don’t want her getting upset because I want our baby to know who to go to when he needs naps or feeding etc and he just told me to stop it’s his mom and she can do whatever she wants with our baby. Which in my head I guess took it the wrong way I don’t know if I’m wrong or not I just want to be the one that is doing the most with my son I’m not like his sister who was dealing with problems when she had given birth and I’m definitely never going to be like that I just want to be assured that I am his mother and will be doing everything I possibly can with him I don’t want him to be 3 and only wanting to be with nana or sleeping with nana I had a rough childhood I wouldn’t even consider me having a childhood and I just know that being a mother is what I’ve always wanted to be and I know exactly how I want to raise him because I’ve been through the worst. I just don’t know if anyone else has had this running through their heads or not am I doing anything wrong by letting people know I want to be the one doing the most with him( well his father and I of course ) but I see it now with how his sister has been getting better and I watch her son just want nana I really don’t want to be in that position because I am fully capable of being the mother and my fiancé wants me to be a stay at home mom so I mean I take full responsibility of raising my boy I just really don’t want anyone to get hurt over how I am feeling.