Jealous of husband's video game friends

I am writing anon bc I don't want to be bashed. My hubs spends more time with his online friends than me. I've tried talking about it with him and he gets defensive and almost childish about it, so I need a way to talk to him about it without coming off as bashing games or whatever. It's his hobby and I don't want him to not have it. I just want the connection he has with his online friends. He will laugh with them for hours and have a great time and with me I have to force conversation. I miss our old connection. It's like gone. I don't know what to do or how to broach the subject without driving a wedge or starting a fight.

I don't want to play with him bc I am REALLY not into games. I've tried that. It just makes me annoyed and irritable. We used to go explore and walk around and have shows we would watch and now we literally do nothing together. We rarely have sex, sleep together, talk.

Please don't say leave him. I'm not ready for that. And I can't get into counseling until September (I have a standing appt for the 11th for this).

I need pointers on talking to him about my feelings. Maybe pointers on how to get out of this rut too.

Update: don't want to leave because we have kids and I don't want them to not have him because I'm unhappy. And cause I don't know where he would go. Also, He has family who are attorneys and I would be afraid of losing my kids bc his support system or ability to get a good ass lawyer. While I'm the main breadwinner I couldn't afford everything on my own.

Edit 2:

He is on them hours upon hours. His steam account showed 38 hours the last time I checked. He also works full time. So literally he's at work or on games. It's a little past an outlet or to blow off steam. I do have hobbies and fill my time other ways. I go to school for a master's, raise my kids, and work full time. Also spend as much time as I can with my sister and friends. I just want him back. Playing with him or watching him play is not an option I tried and it is not my thing. I'm glad to have him do it and have his outlet and hobby. Just not when it takes precedence over the family.