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DH and I both smoke. We have tried a few times in the past.  We both have tried the patches but they burned our arms. I tried the lozenges and they made me sick. I can't chew gum, beacuse of my TMJ(type of lock-jaw). DH just doen't want to chew the gum. The thing is I know we should quit and I know we will for sure if I ever get that BFP. My main problem is that both of our moms smoke too. It will be easy for me to tell my mom not to smoke in my house, but my mother-in-law is a different story. She never comes to our house which I am fine with, but we live just down the road from her so we always go to her house which I am fine with too. She smokes in her house also. 
​ My question is when we tell her that I am pregnant (when the time comes) how do I approach her about smoking inside around me? Do I say anything to her about it or just let her make the decision on wether or not to smoke around me while we are inside HER house?

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So I think that if DH asks her not to smoke with me inside that she will listen to him.

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When I found out I was preg with my son (now 13) I moved in with his father and their family. His dad smoked in the house and I felt uncomfortable at first but for the health of my unborn son I spoke up and asked him to smoke outside. It was hard because I felt like I was intruding on his home but he knew it was best ...and rarely complained! lol
​You have to tell her - she will understand. 
​Good luck! :)

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It may become a moot point when pregnancy nose steps in. You may not be able to be around smoke at all. That happened to a friend who smoked when she got pregnant. In that case, your DH may have to explain to your MIL why you aren't visiting. Then she can decide what to do. I could never live that close to my MIL. She's tempermental, like yours, but also holds grudges for decades.

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u just tell her please don't smoke  in MY house !!!

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Tell her that because you're pregnant you're wanting to take better care of yourself and a huge part of that is not smoking or being around smoke. You can say she's more than welcome to stop by your house but you won't be able to come to hers while she smokes in the house. I honestly think that since she's a mom she will understand and if not, her loss!

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Luckly our mail boxes are at the end of our road ( very close to her house). So I had to get a flashlight and walk down there to get our mail. Then she was happy again. So ME asking her to quit smoking inside around me would prolly set her off. If my DH askes she will prolly still get upset but nowhere as bad. On the other hand she might go outside and smoke when we tell her. Our Uncle cant handle smoke so when he comes over to there house we all go outside and smoke. 
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​Ok now tell me what you think. Lol

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Ok. A little summery on how she is. She is a Bitc** if she doesn't get her way or if you say one wrong thing. We started off shaky then we were good. Then we were enemies for about a year then we worked it out. Now we can pick and joke with each other. I still get nervous on asking her things. Here is a good ex.... The other day she asked me to start picking up her mail when I get mine. Well 2 days in a row I had forgot and I can tell she got mad. (We live on a dead end road).

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Hmmm that's a tough one. What's your relationship with her like? It's almost something you need your husband to speak to her about, along the lines of 'we'll BOTH have to stop smoking around her now she's pregnant'??

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My husband and I do not smoke, but my mother in law used to. She smoked a lot and I didn't want it around my kids. We don't go to their house, but we were so adamant about her not being around my daughter when she was an infant that she actually quit smoking.

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When u r pregnant u should ask her not to smoke around you because u don t want ur unborn child growing up with such a nasty habit(i m used to smoke just quit) he or she did not ask for that. But it is her house and her choice if she wants to smoke inside.. But u should ask if she will do this for you..if not then i think u shouldn t go there anymore or if she lights up a cigarette leave.

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