Family kissing baby

When I was still pregnant my husband and I had set request for people that want to see the baby to wear a mask, use germ-x and don’t KISS our baby. My mom would poke fun at it all the time saying she’s grandma so she will kiss her toes. And I said no you won’t.

Fast forward to August 1st when my baby girl was born she was being very passive aggressive the entire time because she couldn’t meet her yet due to covid and them only allowing 2 visitors at the hospital. We came home from the hospital on August 3rd. My mom came over and as I was breastfeeding baby girl in the nursery, my mom immediately dived to kiss her feet. I said “are you freaking kidding me right now?”. Later that night I had a talk with her about how it was very disrespectful for her to disregard my request and she needs to respect me as a mom. She may be the grandma but idc. I’m her mom and it’s my job to keep her safe. Babies have died because people get them sick by kissing. Idc if it’s on the toes head or whatever. Don’t kiss her. She said she understood.

The next day she was calming her down and kissed her head. I got mad again and had another talk with her. Told her I don’t trust leaving my baby alone with her because she is going to kiss her. If she is gonna do it in front of me, she’ll do it ten times worse behind my back. She apologized.

She was following my request the rest of the week before she went home.

Well last week me and my husband went and surprised her at her house. When I handed baby girl to her and I turned my back for a second to get a diaper and wipes to change her. All I hear was smooching. I turn around and tell her to stop kissing her. Very annoyed. The entire day she was poking fun at my request of no kissing her.

Over the weekend it was my sisters wedding. My mom was holding her and I see my moms mouth in her head. Not kissing but just planted there. (Like wth doesn’t she get about not kissing her?).

I’m so over it. I’m about to lose my shit. I feel so disrespected by her and honestly don’t want her in my baby girls life this young if she is gonna disrespect me on four different occasions and she isn’t even a month old yet. What would you guys do? I feel like telling her she isn’t gonna see her anymore is a bit extreme but if it’ll make her listen then that’s what I’m gonna do.

My baby girl is only 3 weeks and 1 day old. Has anyone else experienced people disrespecting their wishes and what did they do?