Hi everyone ,

Sorry if this is a long post!

Recently my husband and I have lost our jobs in the Middle East and moved to a country in Europe where My husband is from but I don’t speak the language (I can understand a lot but not confident to speak yet)

We have been living in his apartment that he bought

His mum also lives in the apartment with us.

She never leaves. She’s always there !!!

She’s been single for 10 years and although she’s a great mum to her kids- all over 30,she doesn’t have much else going on in her life so she tends to be TOO involved in their lives and therefore manipulate their opinions and choices to suit her.

She’s SO GOOD at it though that she always gets pity from my husband and his siblings for her to get her way.

We’ve been living together with her for 4 weeks now and it’s becoming more and more uncomfortable to live with her, she refuses to speak English even though it’s at a very good level, when she speaks their language she continues to completely ignore me even if I’m sitting at the table- basically I feel like I’m not welcome in HER house or good enough for HER son.general faking a smile just not being very communicative- I’m being as nice as ever to her as I want to get to know her better and now is the chance but it’s so hard when she’s just not up for conversation with me.

Today I was alone in the city and received messages from my husband that I am making my MIL feel uncomfortable in her home so much that she feels that she should leave for a weekend BUT in fact my husband has suggested that I take a flight and go somewhere for the weekend even though it’s basically impossible with COVID-19 (obviously)

What the F*ck am I supposed to say? I have to be so careful here or else she will really push me away from my husband and have him all to herself again.

HELP! I’m going crazy and don’t want to fight with my husband we’ve already been through so much this year ...