Depression??

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Tw: suicidal thoughts
Am I alone in thinking that everyone around me would be better off if I died during childbirth? I feel like my marriage is falling apart and I can’t make anyone happy. How can I be a mother? 
I know I should talk to someone but it isn’t really possible in my situation. And I feel like it won’t fix the root of the problem: me.
Has anyone else had these kind of thoughts? How are you dealing with it? Is it anything helping to make them go away?

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I just happen to be awake currently experiencing some mild contractions. I can’t say I’m going through the same thing, but I just want you to know that you are being heard, we want you here, and I urge you to get help right away! Pregnancy is such a hard time in general, without the added stress of a global pandemic, and it is normal to feel down and stressed, but feeling suicidal is something you should seek help for right away. Please contact someone who you can speak to about this.  Sending socially distanced hugs ❤️

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It sounds like you’re having symptoms of perinatal depression. I suffered from it during my first pregnancy. I would recommend talking to your doctor about treatment for it. It can get worse and turn into postpartum depression after your baby is born. There’s no shame in getting help. I was prescribed medication at 16 weeks with my first and it helped so much. Thank you for reaching out on the app for support, that shows that you are still holding on there. Keep hanging in there, mama. I know it isn’t easy to sort through those thoughts. They’re scary, they’re sad, and they can debilítate you. But you CAN do this. You are stronger than you know and more amazing than you realize. ❤️ The phone number for the hotline is a great place to call. That’s actually where I used to work in college. It’s free, 24/7 and completely confidential. They are very skilled and trained to help you sort through these thoughts and keep you safe. Please reach out to them. I think you’ll find that they are a very good resource to have. *hugs* 🤗

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Please call your doctor or midwives answering service asap. What you are feeling is normal. It happens to so many women in pregnancy and postpartum. There is so much help out for you there. Antidepressants and talk therapy can make a huge difference, and your OB/midwife can prescribe it. 
 Check out online platforms if getting out is difficult. https://www.betterhelp.com/ is a really good option because you can text your therapist at any time.

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No mam your baby need baby needs u and please dont ....when you see your baby that will be your sunshine in a during a storm and you family needs ...please talk your husband and family they love u

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Hey lovely lady, I went back on antidepressants at 35 weeks as I was having extreme anxiety and depression with intrusive thoughts. I had similar after my first bub was born so I recognised the signs and knew I needed to get back on some medication. I also had a few sessions with a psychologist which helped while the meds were kicking in. I'm now 39 weeks and I'm back to my old self again (and probably have been for the last few weeks too!) 
I know right now you probably feel like you'll always feel like this, but you won't. I personally think that pregnancy and becoming a new mum is not a time when you want to be struggling through without medication, particularly when thoughts of self harm are involved, and especially when there are so many safe options for you and your baby (yes, even if you breastfeed!).
So yes, my advice would be to see your doctor asap and start medication. You'll wish you'd done it sooner.
Also, there is a book called 'Good moms have scary thoughts' which I have ordered but it hasn't shown up yet haha. But even knowing this book exists and reading the blurb on Amazon kinda made me feel a bit better, knowing that other mums go through this too.
You're not alone 💕💕💕

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I am so sorry you’re feeling this way, especially during pregnancy😢.  I’ve had depression for over 20 years, and I have definitely felt that way.  It’s such a horrible feeling, and I urge you to seek professional help.  It sounds like you gave a serious case of depression, and your baby needs you to get proper support.  You are a valuable person, and your baby needs your love.  Please find help/support.  You can do this!  Message me if you want to talk privately 💜

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