Postpartum and frustrated with MIL 😡🤬

So my lo was born on the 27th. Had a super easy and calm delivery/hospital stay. I honestly don’t know what could have been done to make it better than it already was.

HOWEVER... my mil decided she wanted to go out of state for over a week right before I was due. She got home on the 26th and drove 6 hours to our house the 27th, we didn’t get out of the hospitals till mid day on the 29th. As I was getting admitted my so was on the phone with his mom on speaker and his mom kept saying “we”, so he asked who was with her and she brought my so niece. Normally I wouldnt care if the niece was here. However she is EXTREMELY high strung, doesn’t listen to ANYONE, back talks, lies, screams and yells, gets my 2 year old son and dog wound up and then blames them for the noise. Mind you she’s ten, so for the most part she should know better than to behave the way she does. We told MIL multiple times to come by herself cause we both wanted it calm and as quiet as possible with the new baby and so I can recover easier and not be stressed out.

By the time we find out the niece is with MIL they are all of an hour of a 6 hour drive away from us. So it’s to late for us to voice she needs to stay home. We’re both like what ever, she’s only gonna be here till Sunday, we probably won’t get discharged till Saturday anyways. Well we have a camera doorbell, got a few notifications that someone was at our door so we went to check to make sure it was them and that they got in okay...this lady brought two of her four dogs with her, mind you she also has someone staying at her house watching her other two dogs. She never asked or even mentioned to either of us that she was bringing any of her animals. Our dog isn’t around other dogs often, and is very protective of us and our home. So now we’re both pissed and calling to see what’s going on, what they’re doing with their dogs, with our dog, etc. at some point that night they put our dog in my sons room with the light on, took him out, but left the light on till we got home from the hospital 2 days later 🙃

Our house was SPOTLESS, my SO busted his ass swap cleaning multiple times before baby got here so that it was clean, fresh, relaxing for us to come home too. When we came home our house was TRASHED, and reeked of dog poop. Her dogs have been in our spare bathroom the entire stay and I can’t walk by the door to go to our bedroom or my sons bedroom without gagging, not to mention when they did take our dog outside to use the bathroom they would dispose of his poop bags in our kitchen trash can, instead of the dog bin in the dog park, literal 20 feet from our porch 😡

We stoked up our food for a month for just the two of us and my son so that we wouldn’t have to go out but for the occasional essential, in the past 4 days of them being here they’ve gone through HALF of all of our food, have kept all the lights on in every room they go into, are constantly screaming and yelling at each other. The niece keeps taking my sons nerf gun from him and shooting him in his head/back. She’s spraying and taunting my dog making him become protective and constantly barking. my dog almost NEVER barks unless he feels threatened or feels me, my son, so, and now baby are in danger.

With my hormones all over the place right now and trying to physically recover with the seconds degree tear, all I want is my SO help and my baby. My SO took a shower with me yesterday to help me wash my back and shave my legs cause it’s a little hard for me to right now. MIL saw fit to make a comment insinuating that me being pale(slightly anemic from child birth🙄) had to be because we spent too long in the shower and were hooking up 🤔🙃🤬 and she even stated this to alllll of my family memebers when we went over to let them meet our baby. My entire family has been quarantined since February due to a few members having life long health conditions. So we were concerned with them being infected or being sick. Now I wouldn’t say we are overly cautious germaphobes but with everything going on we want to keep lo contact with others to as few as possible. MIL was instructed on multiple occasions to wear a mask and wash hands since she decided to go out of town if she wanted to hold lo. Me personally I don’t think that’s much to ask for. However she hasn’t done EITHER, she wants to hold and care for the baby as much as humanly possible, when my family asked to hold baby so mil can have a break(cause they hadn’t got to hold baby yet) she would say no, I’m fine. So more than half of my family that was there didn’t get to hold, let alone come close to baby because MIL wouldn’t give baby up and she wasn’t wearing a mask 😡🤬🤬🤬 the kicker of that is she MAKES masks and sells them constantly!

Hell as soon as we came home from the hospital I hopped into the shower so I could feel a little refreshed and get into comfy clothes, SO was feeding lo in our room and his mother decided that this was a perfect time to come into our room sit on our bed and wait until SO handed her the baby, mind you our bathroom door is open so I can’t get out of the shower cause our bed looks directly at our mirror and reflects the shower completely(thank god we had a curtain). I had to shout to ask for the door to be closed so I could get out and when I did come out of the bathroom she was STILL there. When I motioned to wanting to lay down she didn’t budge from sitting on our bed for a few minutes till she was like well I guess all go check on the niece.

And last but surely not least, MIL made a comment that she had no plan on leaving anytime soon and could go home when ever she felt like it, but doesn’t plan on leaving soon. Again we were both under the impression she would be leaving yesterday, this morning at the VERY latest. And the few times she has mentioned leaving she said she would leave niece here for us to take care of and take the baby with her.. joking or not it’s rubbing me and SO wrong.

Am I wrong or is it just these hormones making me feel completely upset, frustrated and pissed off with MIL being here?? Cause I really do believe I’m justified in feeling this way, and I know SO feels the same.