Hey Ladies,

I'm 22 (very mature for my age though) and he 24, we both currently live with parents due to Covid. (me just my mum)

So I get super bad period pains, I’m talking sweating, shaking, heavy breathing, nausea, can’t walk, stabbing horrible pains. Sometimes if I’m lucky it’s just normal cramps but most of the time I have to be on strong pain killers so it’s manageable and I can get things done.

Last night I couldn’t sleep, so much pain, couldn’t get comfortable, got up 2 times during the night to take some painkillers as was so sore.

Next day my body just wanted to rest. Now my boyfriend is amazing with my periods, gets me what I need, cuddles me, snuggles and if I need anything he’s there. We’ve been together 3.6 years and we don’t live together yet and only get to see each other on the weekends as we live 45 min away from each other and can be 1.5 hours with traffic.

Now I love to cook! Used to be a chef and it’s like my happy place in the kitchen. On Saturday night i was in the kitchen making a delicious big meal for myself and my man, and afterwards he gave me giant hugs and lots of thank you and helped me clean dishes and all.

Same with last night, made another big delicious meal 2+ hours in the kitchen making food (while got bad cramps and all, cause I wanted to make my man a good meal) he’s a gym freak, and eats a lot haha. With Covid money hasn’t been as much as usual, which is fine easily manage. But means I don’t buy as much food, still lots for me. And I still

Make sure I make a very large meal for my man, he’s fit as! But eats a lot. A Meal for like 5 people I usually have to make. And he sometimes helps with dinner but majority I do it all myself. He’ll help when he can but most of it is me.

This morning as mentioned I just wanted to be in bed, I didn’t wanna do anything was to sore. And my partner was asking if I needed anything and I said just cuddles. As usually I can’t take my painkillers without food and I just wanted him to cuddle me and to sore to sort anything properly haha. I then decide to just take the painkillers without food in bed as just wanted to be pain free. So I did. Around 1:30pm I went down and my boyfriend and I made breakfast (always make it together, every morning). As by then painkillers kicked in a bit and wasn’t as sore.

Here’s where I’m trying to think straight.

So later in the day he was complaining about not getting up early and annoyed at me for sleeping in so much. Which I get as we usually like to get up early and do things, but I’m in agony pain like would you expect a little empathy and understanding and not make it about you.

Then once he leaves to go back to his place, he tells me he lost a bit of weight at mine (he was going to make dinner at his place I even offered, but when he got home he was to tired to cook, so he didn’t) anyways let me explain with text messages:

Him: I lost 1kg over the weekend, from not eating enough xxxxx

Me: Really? Was I not feeding you enough? Xxxx

Him: We only had 2 meals a day xxxx

Me: But we had breakfast later in the day, like some weekends we have at yours xxxx

Him: exactly, But at mine I eat more to make up for it and also have protein shakes xxxx

Me: Okay. I tried to make lots of food, if you were still hungry I could have made u more food. Xxxx

When I asked if you had enough you said u were good.

Him: Yeah you already spent lots of time making food so don't want to be annoying xxxxx

Me: Id rather you tell me your still a little hungry, than leave sayings you are not getting fed enough food. Plus you do eat a lot babe, I do try to make enough food. Xxxxx

Him: Yeah I know xxxx

Me: Plus Did you weigh yourself on an empty stomach? Cause if your hungry you are always going to weigh a lot less.

Like I have snacks I can make you but you can always bring some snacks over if there was something you specifically want. Just tell me, I don’t mind making you food at all, I’d rather you be well fed than under fed babe xoxo

Him: Yeah cause I didn't have dinner and I'm very hungry. Yeah would've brought protein but left my shaker at (won't name his mate) place xxxxx

Me: Aww yeah, next time remember as you usually have that at night. Like next time if I make food and your still hungry, say so okay, I want you to be comfortable and well fed, not underfed, I wanna make you happy and not be hungry xoxox

Him: Ok thanks baby xxxxx

Me: Like I have heaps of other foodies you could have if you still are hungry. Don’t be afraid to ask Xoxox

Him: But protons is usually in short supply and takes a while to make so yeah xxxxx Like in the past I notice if like I'm not really full then your mum would suggest something with junk calories like white bread And like concern over the cost of food, specifically meat

Me: Yeah my mum doesn’t go for the healthiest of foods like we do. Bt yeah meat is expensive, and food in general lots of it is. But there’s noodles and sometimes you just gotta eat what’s there and try not to be fussy but grateful. Xxxx

Him: Yeah I know. I'm trying to be healthy and build muscle and lose fat. To do that you need the right kind of foods. So I'd rather eat less than fill in the gaps with junk food. Not fussy or ungrateful, just focused on goals xxxxx

[usually I buy groceries but If I get covid I can get really really ill, very low immunity due to surgeries so I can't do shop but I do contribute $$]

Me: I know, just currently mum has been buying the food and she tries to get a good range balanced diet of foods for us, and we are on a slightly tighter budget as mum got a wage cut due to Covid and I’m struggling due to Covid also so we can’t buy all the healthy foods and vege that we usually would like to buy. We try our best with our income currently cut and not having other flatmates means me and mum have to pay more a week due to that. Which does make it a bit more stressful. But I do try to provide healthier foods for you. But i also can’t provide the best foods all the time. we do buy lots of veges and healthy foods but we don't over buy because we like it fresh and that fits our budget to do so at the moment. Xxxxx

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He fell asleep before he could read the above message but just thought I’d jump on here and get an outside view or suggestion on situation.

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Is he being ungrateful? Expecting more than he is given and me being on my period and like getting annoyed at me for wanting to sleep or be in bee cause I'm sore, like he could have gotten up but I know he likes to be in bed with me & getup together.

Idk if just my period emotions but some reason all the isn't sitting well with me. Just like really? After all I do for you it still isn't enough? Idk. Help me out. Sorry is a lot of text, I like providing full context. 😊😊❤️❤️