Am I overreacting?

So my stepmom is an ultrasound tech. She’s also one for the dramatics. I don’t say that to be harsh but everyone in the family knows it and we tend to walk on eggshells with her at times.

Anyways, I haven’t seen her in 3 months because she says she doesn’t want to risk infecting me with COVID but she doesn’t have COVID. All summer before our COVID compliant, social distance baby shower (outside, masks, 6ft apart) she tried everything to get us to cancel it.

First time was she said they couldn’t pay for it, fair enough they don’t have too.

Second, was she called around to all our family and told them not to come because they would infect me. Okay, not cool but people can make their own decisions.

Third, was she brought in the big guns. Had my Dad constantly calling and texting me and stopped over asking if we were canceling it because she was concerned.

The last time, my Dad came over one week before and asked us to contact everyone and cancel it because my stepmom wasn’t letting up. We told him we had taken every single precaution and we weren’t even the ones doing it. It was friends from our church.

So my stepmom can’t come see me but she can keep sending my Dad over? They live in the same house, sleep in the same bed? If she had something chances are high he would too. It makes no sense to me.

Also, now that the shower is over my stepmom is texting me all the time and telling me that she’s going to make a point of stopping over and seeing us when we come home from the hospital in October. I told my husband no she’s not. If she hasn’t been able to come over now because she doesn’t want to infect us, she’s not coming over when we have a newborn. It’s not out of spite but I think the same rules should apply. I don’t think that’s fair to our daughter. Like once she’s here it will be cold and flu season and she should treat it the same as she has this COVID situation.

Am I wrong? I don’t want my daughter getting sick and I know this is going to make waves with my stepmom. But 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️