Help me fix this so i can send & hopefully solve some family drama

My sister in law hates me and i would really like for her to see my side of things. I typed out what i would like to say to her can anyone edit /help make it more clear and easier to read & understand. I hope getting this out will help heal all of our family drama

Before I even got a chance to get to know you, (Name )already told me you didnt like me. I never understood why you didnt like me, You even tried setting him up with another girl you thought was better for him while we were dating; Knowing you never liked me has caused me to not be able to get close to you.

When we first got married it seemed like you found every little reason to dislike me, you even got mad because i didnt let (name) have a dog, I dont like dogs and i knew if we got one it would be my responsibility as much as he worked, and he saw that for himself, he doesnt have the time for one. I dont have time for people to judge me and distroy my relationship when they dont even know me.

Your parents have always showed a lot more interest in you than (name) growing up. He has said that he was treated unfairly compared to you. They never had as good as a relationship with him as they did you, a lot of times (name) has said he has more in common with my dad than his own and has always been able to talk to him easily.

They could have been more involved in his life, they could have helped him have a better future, allowing him to drink, smoke/ dip at 15 was very bad parenting, They could have stopped it. Now he has to live with that addiction for his life until one day hopefully he can stop, he has tried several times, I just wish someone was there for him when he first started to help him stop, when I met him he was already addicted and i didnt have much say so anyways. They could have not allowed him to be out all night with bad “friends” They didnt support him when he didnt want to go to college and made him feel like he was stupid for not going ( even you did too ) When he made the desion to not go he needed a good job, and they didn’t support him trying to get a good job for him, but they did support him wanting to go to military for some reason. Why would they want to support that desion? Did they not care to see him? Did they want him away from everything? Ill never understand, I tried to be as supportive as i could in everything he talked about doing, as many times as I was against that idea, I didnt have a say in that desion, your parents should have been more involved. I dont hold grudges & Im not still mad at them for it, I forgive them & you and Im sorry it has been this way. It was not me who blocked you, it was a mutual desion because you all caused so much stress on him, He felt like every time he talked to you all, you just asked when you could see him, when he barely had time to even see me & have time to sleep, we were on completely different schedules and it put a lot of strain on our marriage at the beginning, he didnt need you all telling him his job was bad for making him work so much when he was already on the verge was quitting, He couldnt quit at that point, he was married and had responsibilities. Then your mom for some reason blames my mom for making (Name) do it all when we thought it would be easier if I didnt work so we could see each other more. We were having a baby and we needed me to stay home so we could be the ones who raise our kids and not have to send them to daycare or have other people rasise them as we already didnt see each other, it made things easier when i could adjust myself to be on his schedule. Also with everything (Name) has said about your parents growing up has made me worry about my own kids. I dont want them to be treated less fairly, We always have been worried once you or your siblings have kids your parents would be more involved in their lives than our kids because thats how it alwsys was with (name) . We dont know why, Its not fair and we dont want to put our kids through that. So we figured it was in their best interest to not get too close so they dont get hurt later on. Im not trying to start anything and I probably dont even need a response but you can know my side of things and hopefully you dont hate me anymore or be more understanding to our life and schedules.

I just want to update this post and say his sister is the one who keeps bringing it up all the time, she always blames me for everything.. i just want to send her my side so she doesn’t continue hating me and blaming everything on me.. its been going on for 3 years and we have tried leaving it in the past but it keeps getting brought up by her and it makes things awkward around each other