Is anybody NOT excited about being pregnant?

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I just found out on Monday We are expecting our 3rd child. Came as a surprise. We have an almost 7yr old son (surprise. feb' 09), and an almost 2yr old daughter (planned. jan '14). Hubs has been saying were done having kids. I would have liked to believe when we were ready for a 3rd, wed work on one. So, a 3rd baby was never out of the question, at least not for me. But, this is unexpected and I feel like I'm not ready. I'm scared to add a 3rd with a toddler. We just purchased a 2016 gmc terrain and i dont think its going to be large enough to fit 3 kids in back (all w carseats) comfortably. I WANT so badly to be happy about this. But Im not. I mean, I'm not sad either. I just dont know what to think or do. Im extremely nervous. I'm nervous about my baby girl not being my baby girl anymoreand  moving into the "middle child" seat. I dont know. I guess now I feel like I'm just rambling on. Im really overwhelmed with this news. The red flags should have clicked for me when I freaked out over being starving and having to eat RIGHT NOOOOWWWWW!!! But I Still thought my period would come.

Anyway, anyone else out there like me? Any kind words? Thank you

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I think your honesty about your situation is remarkable. Not everyone can handle such a big *surprise* - it takes time to process the fact that your family is growing again. It can be a beautiful and wonderful time ... as well as a scary and stressful time.

I would like to say, no matter the circumstances, you have a right to all of the emotions (happy or sad or scared or angry) running thru your body. No one should ever shame you for your thoughts or feelings.

I hope everything falls into place for you - I hope the stars align and all the car seats fit perfectly and the wee one you carry is a blessing. But if things turn out differently, and life is too hectic or scary - ignore the jerk on here, the rest of us will give you all the support you need.

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Just try taking it one day at a time && talk to your husband about how you're feeling...see how he's feeling in all of this :) good luck

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I think it's perfectly normal to feel that way. I'm currently 5 weeks pregnant with our second which we planned and we're both surprisingly calm and over the moon. But last year I got pregnant unexpectedly when my daughter was only 9 months and my first thoughts were oh crap and I wasn't ready and I definitely wasn't excited, but then after a week or two I suddenly chilled out and was really looking forward to it after the initial shock died down. Unfortunately I lost that baby at 10 weeks and was devastated so this is our rainbow baby if
It sticks. But don't worry, the 'oh crap' will soon turn into excitement I'm sure, it's a shock when it's not planned, give yours time to adjust :) X

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I'm not NOT happy, I'm floating somewhere in "oh crap" land. This is our 3rd, have an almost 6 year old and a 4 year old. This was a surprise for us! We talked about having another down the road, so we were open to it...later lol. We found out on Saturday and it still hasn't really hit me yet.

We also will need a new car which will be a challenge. I know how you feel, changing from a family of four to five is a big leap in so many ways. 💛💛

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Yes 3 car seats will fit ( mom of 3 ) we got 3 car seats in a Kia Sorento for years before upgrading to a bigger extended SUV . (4th baby on the way) my husband said he was done not because he didn't want another but because he is the logical thinker who worry a about providing and he is older then I am so he thinks he is too old to have another ( our youngest is 5) . But the second he saw a heartbeat all of that changed. And honestly the change between 2-3 is not nearly as big as 1-2 . It will come and all the sudden your baby will be 5 and you'll be like what was I worried about.

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Ours was planned but after our BFP I started having anxiety attacks. I was terrified of what people would think, finances, daycare, to be a SAHM or work, my weight and health, our daughter's response... Everything. I literally was having full on anxiety attacks. Then I started finally telling people and building a support network. It was really freeing to see how much support I really had. I still have moments, but now I'm learning that it's okay to get excited even if you're not 100% ready.

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I can relate my oldest is almost 10 my youngest are 3 (twins). The father who is now my ex wants me to terminate because he says timing is off. We discussed having our last later down the road. He does not want to be with me because "I" put us in a bad situation. I can honestly say pray if you do, I think you will get over the initial shock. It took me awhile you are completely entitled to feel how you are feeling. I worry too how I will do this by myself but I know I will be fine and so will you.

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I'm kinda in the same boat. I am pregnant with my 3rd as well. I have 2 boys ages 5 and 8. My SO and I talked about having a child and wanted one, but after a year of unprotected sex I was convinced we were unable to concieve( my boys biologically not his), and in my mind came to term with loving the boys I have now and our family is already complete. Well, after missing my period I took a test, expecting to see a negative, but instead that little line showed up. I literally dropped it. I am now 6 weeks 2 days and still back in forth of coming to terms that I am pregnant. One minute I am super excited and the next super worried and in denial. We live in a 2 bedroom home so we will need to find a house with at least 3. It's all so stressful and feel like I am unable to enjoy the pregnancy. I hope it just hormones and emotions causing me to think this way. My 5 year old will no longer be my baby :(

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I'm in the same boat. I have a 6 yo son and a 2 yo daughter. And now I'm pregnant with #3 (4 weeks 2 days.) We bought a third row vehicle last year for the sake of having a bigger car for other people to be able to ride with us with our kids (My 2 close friends both have 2 kids each also.) My SO and I had talked about having another baby later, if at all, because I've just started my career in the medical field and his job in the oil field isn't really steady. But I was thinking after my daughter I might be done, I've been dealing with depression for a little over a year now and I just didn't think I could handle the stress of another child. Well I had a "gut" feeling that I needed to take a pregnancy test the day I was supposed to start my period just to show myself that it was negative and I'd start my flow. Not what happened... That little line in the test spot showed up and it broke my heart. I showed my SO and he flipped out accusing me of doing it on purpose. Not exactly the reaction I needed. So I went and bought a couple more tests just to be certain and cried to my mom. I'm nowhere near ready for another baby, but the way I see it, it's not going to change anything, this baby is here like it or not so I might as well enjoy it. (Also not having a period for 9 months is awesome!) I've already started planning a pregnancy reveal for our families for Christmas and possibly an Easter themed gender reveal since I'll find out in March. It's tough to be happy, but I'm just trying to make the best of this situation. And child (planned or not) is a gift that should be cherished. Just think of how amazing they will be and what they could grow into... That's what I'm trying to do.

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I feel the same way I'm trying to be excited. But my fiancé and I aren't working out and it's been just a mess. My mom is going to be so upset and I've been so damn sick. This is my 3rd as well.

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