Am I over reacting?

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My boyfriend and I knew each other in high school but never dated. However we started dating years later, but now I swear he has slept with everyone in our high school back in the day. It’s starting to bother me because we obviously know a lot of mutual people and there’s always someone new he never mentioned before. Not to mention we still know these people today. Now I know I shouldn’t care but it’s hard not to feel some way about it. If I knew all this before I wouldn’t have started dating him in the first place but we have a baby together so too late now. 🤦🏻‍♀️ just wish he didn’t tell me about any of these girls and not sure why he always brings it Up.

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You can’t be upset about his past from when you weren’t together. That’s a you problem, not a him problem. The fact that he talks about it all the time is an issue though and I would discuss that with him if he’s talking about having sex with them.

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Since you won't leave him, either let it go or ask him not to talk about past partners.

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Well having a baby together doesn't mean you have to be in a relationship, so that's optional. You can't be mad about his past, everyone has one. But I don't think he should just randomly bring up who he slept with. Now if you go digging for info, that's on you.

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His past is the past. You shouldn’t be upset with it, but he shouldn’t be constantly bringing it up if it makes you uncomfortable. Tell him the past is the past and you don’t want to keep hearing about all these past women

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I could see that being frustrating. If he keeps bringing it up I’d just be like “OKAY, I got it - I’m just going to assume at this point you’ve slept with everyone from high school, we don’t really need to rehash all of it”. If they actually dated maybe he should tell you, but it seems like he just casually slept around a lot. He’s with you now and okay, that’s fine if that’s what he did, but former hookups aren’t really relevant anymore and I’d want him just to drop it.

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I’d be mad if my husband would talk about his past partners to me. So I don’t think you’re overreacting on this one. Talk to him and let him know that bugs you and you prefer not to know. If anything it’s best to be honest with your partner. Because you’re finding about all these girls now it’s changing your perception of him. And your entitled  to feel whatever you feel even if it was in his past.  Especially if he constantly talks about “his past” and being with other girls. He needs to keep his past  to himself unless you ask about it. His focus should be on his relationship with you and not about different girls he screwed around in high school. So childish. Best of luck and never settle for less 🍃

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You can't blame him for the life he has chosen to live, but you CAN not being in agreement with it and not wanting to have that in your life.
That's is not judging him, that is having your own standards and preferences for yourself.
We have different types of standard. Some are views, Preferences, principles...
And standards will change. loose up a bit or sharpen more. With life experiences, understanding, maturity...
With some we are flexible, with others its deeper (the principles ones) 
So if it is something that really you cannot take, Please do not think you have no other options.
You have the right to dislike every woman knowing how your man makes love, his touch, kisses, his freaking intimacy and all. 
I understand 100%. We all have a past  but if I personaly know my man has been around, and those people are still in our lives...its unattractive.
To me it is as unattractive as a woman  having been touched by every man around.
Call it old school, call it what you want it is me and I can't pretend being someone else.
So please again if it bothers you so much don't think you have no other options.
You know we only live once. And living one unhappy life or having deep regrets is sad. We are never forced to stay in a situation.
That doesn't mean it will be easy to come out of the situation. No 
that just means we can change...with efforts, patience and difficulties maybe, but it can be changed.
And as for him bringing that up all the time I will just say he is immature. I don't know how old you guys are but that doesn't even deserve my comment. I rather give you reassuring and encouraging words that you can be fine.

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Honestly if it’s really that important to you, ask him to tell you all the people he’s slept with that you know. But also high school was a different time. You can’t judge him based off of it. I do think you’re being a bit dramatic but I understand how it’s irritating

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His past sex life is so important to you that you wouldn’t have dated him had you known every person he slept with? This speaks more to your insecurities than anything else and isn’t fair to your partner. Why do you care? It happened before you.

Am I over reacting?

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