Abusive relationship **trigger warning*

How do I leave? I’ll tell a story so maybe it can all make sense.

Been dating my bf for 4 years. 2 years ago, his father committed suicide in their home. Bf was home that day. It hit the family hard. Ever since then, bf hasn’t been the same. He witnessed it first hand. Fast forward to now, he’s done unforgettable things to my family.

My family brought him in because after his dad died, his mom could no longer provide for any of his siblings (all over the age of 18, but before the dads passing, they lived under the same roof)

Bf and I are now 23. We have a daughter. 9 month old.

Well, he’s gone as far as threatening to calling ice on my uncle, and also got in an argument with my step dad that my bf provoked.

Anyway, we just recently moved into a apartment of our own after living under my moms roof.

Things have gotten worse. He calls me names, and yells when I say something. And then tells me that I don’t listen.

Bottom line is, I’ve talked to his mom, and two siblings about helping him. He needs help and I’ve tried the best I could. He needs psychological helps. He doesn’t want to go.

Twice this year I threatened to leave with my daughter, but he promised to go to a psychologist and never did.

Now, I’m done waiting. I tried the best I could. And his family doesn’t want to see that there’s something wrong with him. It’s like his dads passing triggered so many bad things about my bf.

How do I leave? I can go to my moms place, but I don’t want my bf making another scandal and potentially getting into an argument or a fight with my step dad.

Do I let his mom know? So that way of things get out of hand, she’d be there to help?

I also don’t want to lose custody of my baby girl. I am diagnosed with bipolar depression, I visit a psychologist every year. Bf always tells me how they would never give me the custody because of that.