Delivery room

My husband and I each have a child from previous relationships. When his child was born there were a lot of people in the room, including his father and fathers girl friend. When I had my child it was just me and my sons father. I did not feel the support that I needed. He said he didn't feel needed when his child was born so he just wants it to be him and me only. I said no because I already did that, so now he is upset that he won't have anyone there from his side of the family or anyone there to support him. I am so irritated I don't even know how I can get him to stop thinking about his own feelings. Because ultimately until he is stretching a baby out of his penis his feelings on this don't matter to me. But I cant say that to him lol so anyone have advice to offer?