First dildo

Ok so I just used this dildo that was ribbed and holy fucking shit... ok y’all I’m a virgin, and that really hurt. When y’all were saying it doesn’t feel good when you firdt experience penetration I was downplaying but ummm no. I- honesty have no words. But what’s the real thing like because my god if it feels like that it better the kindest most gentle man ever...

I am just kinda gobsmacked...when will it feel good I need an answer.